Team Cavanagh

Firsts

2009-03-01T20:46:00.000-08:00

So I intended on writing this post weeks ago, but between a month of internet problems and seemingly unending illness, it just didn't happen.

February opened with two very special firsts for Mr. Nathaniel. On February third, he got his very first professional haircut. I mention the "professional" part because I made an attempt at it awhile back and cut his ear. That began and ended my career as a hairdresser. Anyway, Nathaniel made his mama proud and had a great time. Katie was a big help in keeping him happy. Not one tear was shed.

The very next day, we celebrated Nathaniel's first birthday at our home with some friends and family. In typical Nate-Dog style, he ate TWO dinners about an hour apart and then dove right into his chocolate cake with both arms. I really do not understand how he is not even on the growth chart. That kid eats like crazy!

At a year old, Nathaniel is crawling, pulling up, and cruising. He can say hi, Dada, bye bye, and dog. And today he just cut his seventh tooth. I can't believe that an entire year has gone by since he joined our family, and yet, I can hardly imagine us without him. We love you, Nathaniel!

Mission Accomplished

2009-03-01T19:11:00.000-08:00

The second week in February we began attempt number one million at potty training Katie. Like before, we cleared the schedule, got out the potties, potty seats, panties, and prizes, and prayed. In the past I had made a big production of it which only produced more performance anxiety in my precious little perfectionist. So this time, we went for laid back.

Me: "Katie, do you want to wear panties and bake cookies with me?"
Katie: "O.k., but I don't want to go peepee on the potty."
Me: "That's cool. But you have to wear panties while we make cookies."
Katie" "Can they be gingerbread cookies?"
Me: "Absolutely!"
Katie: "Yes, I want to bake cookies."

So after trying on several panties, she settled on a princess pair (thank you, Grandma Cavanagh), and we baked. Every so often, Katie would tire of a particular pair of panties and want to change them out for a different style or color. We had to keep them in the kitchen in her Tinkerbell backpack so that we had the selection right there with us. That girl cracks me up.

I think I must win the mother of the year award because, while Katie was very scared to sit on the potty, somehow jelly beans helped to lessen her fear, and with them in hand, she could take on the toilet. But nothing happened. Again, performance anxiety.

My friend Liza believes that the key to potty training a kid is making the child sit on the potty often or long enough so that you "catch them" going and then he/she can make the mental connection. That only works if your kid is not smarter than you. If your kid does not understand that if she doesn't drink anything, she won't have to pee.

Me: "Katie, you haven't been drinking your milk. Aren't you thirsty?"
Katie: "Will that make me go peepee? I don't want anything to drink if it will make me go peepee."
Me: "I got you a special treat, lemonade!"
Katie: "No, thank you, Mommy. I don't want any lemalade. That will make me go peepee."

So I made a quick run to the convenience store outside our subdivision to get some salty snacks. I would not be beat! Katie may be able to turn down lemalade, but chips and pretzels, never! She had to get thirsty sometime.

All that to say, my plot failed, but in a moment of desperation, I decided to put her on her little potty in front of the t.v. so that she could calm down enough to go. So armed with her jelly beans on a potty in the middle of the living room, Katie joined the ranks of potty trained people. I had left the room for a moment to change Nathaniel's diaper when suddenly Katie appeared.

Katie: "Mommy, I want to show you something. But you can't say anything."
Me: "O.k."
(We go back to the living room.)
Katie: "Look in the potty, but don't say anything."
(The potty has been used!)
Me: "Can I give you a hug?"
Katie: "Yes."
Me: "Can I give you high five?"
Katie: "Yes. But don't say anything."

And from there it has all been down hill. Having conquered her fear, Katie is now fully potty trained. And even cooler than that, it is helping her to overcome fear in other areas. Katie has been very afraid of going to preschool. Luckily for her, it hasn't been an option because you have to be potty trained to attend. But a week ago, Katie informed me that since she is no longer scared to go on the potty, she is not scared of school either. God's timing is perfect because that weekend, she had a group play assessment as part of her admission process for preschool, and she liked being there.

A Big Week for Nate Dog

2009-01-22T05:06:00.000-08:00

The Big Week really started last week when Nathaniel said his first word. "Hi!" he says with a wave. At first we weren't sure if he was really saying "hi," but we became convinced when he greeted Mama Kitty when she arrived at our house on Saturday. We are so proud of you, Nathaniel!

On Sunday, we dedicated Nathaniel to the Lord during the church service. I am well aware that this was just a formal display of what God will daily call us to do, turn over the life of our precious son to Him. Quite a few people joined us to witness the dedication and celebrate afterwards. We were so glad that Nana, Grandmommy, Grandaddy, Mama Kitty, Liz, Haley, and Matt could join us. And it was such a blessing that all four families in our Bible study dedicated our second-born children on the same day.

By Sunday evening, Nathaniel was already testing us to trust the Lord with his safety as he proudly crawled up the stairs for the first time. Boy was he proud! Now we just have to remember to keep that gate closed at the bottom of the stairs.

Which leads to the next big thing that happened this week... After crawling up the stairs, Nate Dog started wheezing. He has had cold symptoms for about a week, so he either has RSV or the cold triggered asthma. They are treated the same way, so we are doing nebulizer treatments every few hours, and he seems to be doing fine. Hopefully, this was just an isolated incidence.

Back to the good news... In spite of being sick this week, Nathaniel, ever the joyful one, graced us with his second word at 5:30 this morning. After nursing he rolled over in our bed, patted Andy, and said, "Hi, Dada!" Of course, it has made Andy's day, and it's not even 8am.

New Year, New Blog

2009-01-22T04:53:00.000-08:00

So as some of you might have noticed, I am not the most prolific blogger. But it's a new year, a time to start new habits. My goal is to post once a month, and you can hold me to it.

My Sincerest Apologies

2008-08-27T20:51:00.000-07:00

Until I was fourteen, we lived next door to David and Peg Harmon. Peg worked with the children's ministry at our church where she was known as Mrs. Peg. Since she was called Mrs. Peg, I assumed that her husband must go by Mr. Peg which I called him for most of my childhood. The adults all thought that this was cute, and so they never bothered to correct me. Eventually I figured it out for myself that Mrs. Peg's husband was, in fact, Mr. Harmon, not Mr. Peg. And for years this has been told in my family as a cute story of when I was a little girl.

Tonight I was recounting this story at Bible study when something horrifying occurred to me. Mr. Harmon was a Vietnam vet who had lost a leg in the war, leaving him to rely on a prosthesis, a peg if you will, in its place. So, David Harmon, if you're out there, I am so terribly sorry. There was no pun intended.

Mommy and Nate Go to the Big D

2008-08-09T20:59:00.000-07:00

Last weekend Mommy and Nate had a hot date to the Big D. I had the great privilege of taking part in Haley and Matt Byrnes' wedding, and Nathaniel went as my date since Daddy had to work back in Austin. Driving more than a couple of hours is a challenge with the little guy as he gets bored and voices his dissent quite loudly from that point forth. But we made it to Dallas in one piece and even arrived at the rehearsal in time for Mommy to practice the scripture reading. It was no small feat.

Haley and Matt had a great Texas-style rehearsal dinner on White Rock Lake overlooking the Dallas skyline. Unfortunately, Nate-dog and I had to head out before the band took the stage. He's not the two-stepper that his daddy is, and we both needed to catch some shuteye.

The wedding was beautiful and very honoring to the Lord, and I was grateful to be there sans baby due to a little babysitting help from one of my college roommates, Holly Crenshaw. After the wedding, Hols and I got to spend some quality girl time together catching up and taking care of important goals like watching Baby Mamma in my hotel room. I also kicked her butt playing Boggle. Love you, Cren! It felt great to actually win a game since Andy almost always beats me.

On Sunday we made our way back to Austin to find that Andy and Katie had a good time as well. And although Katie was a little mad at me when I first got home (she wanted "space"), she warmed up pretty quickly, and we enjoyed some good time together before the week began.

My Baby is Growing Up

2008-08-04T22:09:00.000-07:00

Nathaniel is now six months old. It's hard to believe that half a year has already gone by. I am so thankful to have such a wonderful son. At six months, he is rolling over, sitting up, cutting his first tooth, and generally making sure that things aren't too quiet around here. That boy is loud! He loves to scream when he's happy, sad, hungry, dirty, whatever. But he more than makes up for it by how cute he is. His sister and two doggies can make him laugh like nobody's business, and based on how much he likes to bounce around when he's being held, that kid is not the type to sit still. Let's see, he's joyful, loud, wiggly.... who does that sound like? Mini-Andy.

Now I Lay Me...

2008-08-04T22:04:00.000-07:00

Now I lay me down to sleep. I pray the Lord to ride a llama?!

Part of Katie's bedtime routine includes praying. We always ask her what she would like to pray about. Last night, she asked me to pray that she could ride a llama.

Da Bears

2008-07-29T20:59:00.000-07:00

Black bears are one of the many types of wildlife that make their home in the Catskills. And throughout my childhood, it was always a big deal if someone were to actually see one. We knew that they were around, but they mostly stayed away from populated areas unless there was a drought.

In the last few years, there has apparently been a bear population explosion because now they are everywhere. People send out memos on the best methods to prevent bears wreaking havoc on their property. But still, we had never seen any signs of one near our house.

So... one night we were playing Scategories and being quite loud. After the game wrapped up, I went to take out the trash, but thankfully looked out the window before going outside. The big wooden box in which we place our trash cans in order to prevent animal intrusion was literally upended, and trash was everywhere. We were a little freaked out but also excited. O.k., Andy and I were excited. Madeline was already high-tailing it upstairs so that the bear wouldn't get her.

We told Katie the next morning thinking that she would share in our excitement. A real live bear at our house! Cool! She didn't really share in our enthusiasm. Andy spent the rest of the trip telling her not to be afraid because the Bears are in Chicago. Nice one, Dad.

We had heard that spraying the trash with Febreeze is a good deterrent, so I kept our trash bin as springtime fresh as possible for the remainder of our time there, and that seemed to do the trick. (Apparently bears do not like floral-scented garbage.) At least until our last night there. The next morning the box was once again knocked over, and we had a cleanup job to do. Andy volunteered to take care of things. But when he walked out the door, he got more than he bargained for. To add insult to injury, the bear had pooped on our back stoop. We suspect that this must have been an adolescent bear. Thank goodness he didn't have a paper bag and a lighter.

Twilight Park 2008

2008-07-26T19:05:00.000-07:00

We just got back after two glorious weeks in Twilight Park. For those of you who don't already know, Twilight is a summer community in the Catskill Mountains of New York. It was founded over one hundred years ago by some of my (Ashley's) forbearers, and our home there has been in our family since that time. Twilight is where we go to rest, unplug, enjoy God's beautiful creation, and reconnect with one another.

The first week we were there, we enjoyed the company of Dick and Madeline, Andy's dad and step-mom. The kids had lots of fun with Grandpa and Grandma as did we. Some high-lights include visiting on the porch, reading, doing a puzzle, splashing in the creek, going to the playground, shopping at a local farm, playing board games at night, a visit from a bear, eating at our favorite mountain-top restaurants, Andy going mountain biking, and Ashley attending a birthday party for some of her childhood friends.

Week two was all about rest. We did a lot more reading, laid in the hammock, went to the pool, played more games, did another puzzle, went hiking, had another visit from the illusive bear, ate ice cream with sprinkles, went to story hour at the library, got together with old friends and watched our kids become friends, picked blueberries, soaked in the claw-foot bathtub, and enjoyed walking to nearby waterfalls and soaking in the scenery. It was hard work, but someone had to do it.

There is so much to share, so look for more blog posts about Twilight soon!

Dr. Katie

2008-07-06T19:25:00.001-07:00

For the most part, I have found the "terrible twos" to be a misnomer. However, there are times when this "first adolescence" rears its ugly head, and it downright brings me to my knees. The other day Katie was particularly trying my patience with her amazing ability to stall as I was trying to get her to bed.

Mommy: (Big sigh)

Katie: "Are you o.k., Mommy?"

Mommy: "Yes. Mommy is just frustrated right now."

Katie: "That's o.k., Mommy. We'll get you some apple juice, and that will help you poop. Then you'll feel better."

And now you know how we treat Katie when she's gotta go but can't.

Happy 5 Months on the 4th, Nate Dog!

2008-07-04T21:07:00.000-07:00

I cannot believe that Nathaniel is five months old today! Although he got a rough start in life with reflux, he has become the happiest, sweetest little guy. He makes the cutest sounds and has a great laugh. His favorite games include playing Tarzan with Mommy, laughing with Katie, and doing push-ups with Daddy. Any day now he will be rolling over. We are so proud of you, little guy!

Adventures in Late-Night Potty Training

2008-06-04T21:03:00.001-07:00

Not that I am a goal-oriented person, but.... I read that most kids aren't ready to potty train until they are at least 24 months old. So as soon as Katie turned two, I read books, watched a DVD, bought training panties and a potty, and generally prepared for P-Day. About two hours into potty training, it was clear that Katie didn't get it, but I didn't let that discourage me. I pressed on. Two days into the ordeal, we were both about to lose it. Andy suggested that we scrap potty training until Katie was ready. And I agreed as it had become obvious that, short of strapping her to the toilet, we weren't going to get anywhere.

As the months passed, I brought it up at times to test her interest level.

Katie: Mommy, I want to be a ballerina.
Me: Ballerinas go pee pee in the potty.
Katie: I don't want to be a ballerina.

Katie: Mommy, I want to go to school.
Me: That's great! School is really fun. But you can't go to school until you can go pee pee in the potty.
Katie: I don't want to go to school. I just want to go to pretend school.

Then Nathaniel was born, and I didn't even think about potty training. No need to add to the craziness. I figured that it would happen when it happened. And Katie continued to show absolutely no interest.

But tonight towards the end of her bath, Katie jumped up and said, "I have to pee pee. I need to go to the potty!" And without further ado, she got out of the tub and ran over to her potty and successfully completed her mission. Of course, Andy and I made a big deal over it and after much jumping, shouting, calling of relatives, and giving of treats, Katie announced that she had to go again which she did. Two more times! Woohoo!

So we've scrapped everything for tomorrow and would appreciate your prayers for continued success and cooperation from little Nate-dawg. Ballet slippers, here we come!

The Trinity

2008-05-08T23:29:00.000-07:00

A couple of nights ago, Katie was "composing" a new song. She was singing about Jesus and His mommy and daddy. I asked her, "Katie, who is Jesus's daddy?"

"Will you tell me?" she asked.

"God is Jesus's daddy," I replied.

"So there are two Gods?"

"No. There is only one God, but Jesus and His daddy are both God."

"So there are two Gods."

"No. Just one. But it's really hard to understand. Mommy doesn't understand either."

How do you explain the trinity to a two-year-old child? Can anyone explain it to me?

Poser

2008-05-08T23:24:00.000-07:00

After Nathaniel was born, my mom came to help with the kids. Katie would often make up little songs and sing them as we went about our day. My personal favorite was "Don't Get Allergies." I'm guessing that she was inspired by her dad's cedar fever. Anyway, my mom tried to take the opportunity to teach her a new word.

"Katie, when you make up a song, that's called composing. If you make up a song, then you are a composer."

"I'm a poser?"

Um, yeah.

Busted

2008-04-20T15:25:00.000-07:00

After being accused of stealing milk from kids, Uncle James decided to see what would happen if he really did steal milk from Katie. So one recent evening, James showed up at our house and made a beeline for the fridge. He then made a big point that he was stealing Katie's milk. Still in shock, Katie yelled, "No, Uncle James! You don't take my milk!"

"But I took Isabella and Zach's milk," James replied.

Katie's eyes got very big as she realized that James knew what she had said about him. Busted. How would she respond?

"No, Uncle Chris took their milk." When caught in a lie, it's always best to come up with another lie to cover your tracks. Right?

Uncle James

2008-04-01T22:35:00.000-07:00

In the world according to Katie, Uncle James has been a very busy man lately. First of all, he is a composer. Last night Katie was singing "Jesus Loves Me" while she took a bath. She looked up and asked, "Mommy, who composed 'Jesus Loves Me'?"

"I don't know," I said.

"Maybe Uncle James," offered Katie.

"No, he didn't."

"Yes, he did." And that was that.

Then today I was telling Katie about the DeGarmo's camping trip. "Katie, do you want to know what happened when Isabella and Zach went camping last weekend? Someone stole their cooler with their milk in it! Can you believe that?"

"Who took their milk, Mommy?"

"I don't know."

"Maybe Uncle James took their milk."

"No. Uncle James did not take their milk."

"Yes, he did." And there it is, my brother is a real-life version of Dr. Jeckel and Mr. Hyde, composing "Jesus Loves Me" by day and stealing milk from small children by night.

If at first you don't succeed...

2008-03-30T20:17:00.000-07:00

I'm going to give this blog thing another try. Nathaniel will be eight weeks old tomorrow, and it is way past time to immortalize him in cyberspace. Some of Katie's thoughts on having a little brother:

1. "What dude say?"
2. "That his peanut? I want to see his peanut again!"
3. "I want Nathaniel eat my belly."
4. "Nathaniel spit up!"

No Clothes!

2007-06-12T13:15:00.000-07:00

One of Katie's favorite books right now is called Adam, Adam, What Do You See?. The book highlights some of the major people in the Bible in order but in the style of Bill Martin, Jr. (also known for Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?). While Adam sees "creation all around me," Katie just sees, "no clothes!"

So I say, "Yes, Katie, Adam is naked. Before sin entered the world, people were naked and without shame." Do you think she got that? Either way, we turn the page.

Next comes Noah. "Nona, clothes!" Katie points out. And she continues to turn the pages pointing out people and saying, "clothes!" Eventually she always turns back to Adam and shows me that he, unlike the others, has no clothes.

"Katie," I say, "Adam and his wife Eve sinned and with that came shame. So people started to wear clothes. That's why everyone after Adam wears clothes." I think she's getting it.

Today we were playing outside, and I let Katie drink lemonade out of my cup. Of course it spilled all over her, so as we went inside, I took off her shirt and threw it into the washing machine. As we made our way upstairs to get her another shirt. Katie said, "No clothes!" She ran and got her blankie and put it over herself, giggling all the way.

Now I don't really think that Katie was ashamed because she has run around topless without shame after many a bath. And I while I don't think that she really "gets" the whole connection of clothes and the Fall, she is interested in the idea that for some reason, Adam doesn't wear clothes, while Abraham and John the Baptist do. Interesting what catches her attention.

Bad Dog

2007-06-04T17:55:00.000-07:00

O.k. to be totally fair, I have to include this story, too. While Grandmommy may be a "good boy," I (Ashley) am, at times, a "bad dog." Last week, Katie was doing something that she shouldn't have been doing, and when I made her stop, she looked at me quite seriously and said, "Mommy, bad dog!" Interesting how our daughter expresses herself based on how we talk to our dogs. I am thankful to say that I am not the only "bad dog" in Katie's mind. A couple of days later, Zach DeGarmo was trying to escape out his front door when Katie yelled in protest, "No, Zach! Bad Dog!" Zach, I'd share a title with you any day. But maybe we can work our way up to "good boy" when you get back in town.

Good Boy!

2007-06-04T17:48:00.000-07:00

So Katie is really into talking to herself these days. As she plays, she often talks to her toys or about whatever is on her mind. Yesterday, I was washing dishes and paused to listen in. She was talking about her "Grandmommy" (Ashley's mom), and it went like this. "Grandmommy in Houton. Grandmommy, good boy!" When do they start to understand gender? Apparently not yet. Either way, Grandmommy is apparently deserving of the same praise we give to our dog, Tex, when he occasionally behaves himself. Good boy!

Making Time

2007-03-10T12:20:00.000-08:00

I love to write, really I do. But I am just not making time for it these days. I have a thousand excuses... chasing a toddler, trying to keep up with the daily demands of life, spending time with my hubby and friends. All good reasons. I think that I actually waste a lot of time though. Life is short, and I need to prioritize. Andy keeps encouraging me to use my gifts; he is great that way. The last thing I want is to find that I have buried the very things that God has entrusted to me.

Blogging

2006-07-19T20:44:00.000-07:00

Big B little b what begins with b? blogging ,baby, bubbles and a bumble bee...
Can you guess what we've been reading?

Yes, Ash and I are really delving into some esoteric literature recently. We've been studying the hibernal tendencies of ursus arctos (Bear Snores On) ,the umbilical stumps of African land mammals (Belly Button Book), and the nocturnal behavior of diminutive monkeys (Five Little Monkeys) With all this study of the animal kingdom that we are getting at bed time , we should be ready to host our own show on Animal Planet in no time. I can see it now: "Hi I'm Andy Cavanagh. Today on Kitty Cat Hunter I am going to hunt and capture the 10 most dangerous kittens in the world!" Yes I am truly a man without fear, friends.

Speaking of kittens, we seem to have adopted, or more accurately, been adopted by a stray and her kitten. This leads me to the inevitable question...How do you best cook cat? No seriously, Ashley is supposed to have named said kitty days ago but can't seem to come up with anything. Originally she said "Mooch" but that's just not very feminine sounding. Granted I am no feline gender-ologist, but given this cat has kitty utters and breast feeds her kitten I am going to assume it's a girl. So any name suggestions?

Back on the topic of reading, Ash and I are actually reading something not in board book form (although if it had come it board book form- I much prefer it that way- much better tasting in my opinion) Anyway, we are reading Blue Like Jazz. Incredibly funny, simple and profound. I haven't even finished it and it's in my top ten book list (I absolutely love making top # lists of different things- top 5 places I would love to visit, top 7 ice cream flavors, top 10 Polish wedding songs etc. )

Well this blog is getting long, so I will end it with a question to ponder...How should I end this?